Runaway Future

9.8.2013

apologies and the things you can’t take back

Filed under: The Daily Grind — forbes @ 17:01

A couple months ago, I got a message out of the blue from someone I hadn’t spoke with in a couple years.

As things happen, we stopped being in contact and it wasn’t under the best circumstances.

So the message was an apology. An apology after two years.

Which was hard to swallow.

And today, I found the words why.

In this article, Ta-Nehisi Coates lays out the issue with forgiveness:

As Cooper says it puts a moral burden on the injured party; the injured having already lost his dignity at the hands of the aggressor, is asked to give one more thing. I’d argue it’s better to seek forgiveness of oneself, to learn from one’s own wrongs. An apology made in hopes of getting something is already compromised.

His example speaks of white guilt and racism, but it could speak of anything. An apology made externally just to gain internal forgiveness is hollow.

Learning things

Filed under: The Daily Grind — forbes @ 13:30

It’s really cool to learn something small and then put it into action and see it actually work.

This is pretty minor, but I read once that when talking to little kids, it’s good practice to squat down and interact with them on their level.

So on a number of occasions over the past few weeks, I’ve found myself hanging out with some kids and I’ve tried it out.

Results?

In every case, the previously shy and nervous kids became open and friendly. Which was awesome.

I learned how to play with kids, by operating on their level.

Neato.

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